One of the greatest obstacles towards inner peace is not being able to forgive. Most people are holding on to things from the past.
I once heard an analogy about holding grudges that made me realize how self-inflicting it was not to forgive…
“It’s like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
If you think about it, holding grudges or not forgiving actually hurts us, not the other person. They just go on with their lives.
The habit of forgiveness is one of the most liberating and empowering acts we can implement to improve the quality of our lives – our relationships. Including the most important relationship – the relationship with ourself.
Which brings up another side to this – Guilt. We are our own worst critic. Forgiving yourself for the past is a powerful way to clear mental or emotional blocks that get in the way of our own success and happiness.
I still struggle with this. Practicing forgiving is a work in progress. But understanding this concept has helped me overcome a lot of obstacles. Getting caught up in the game of ”I should’ve” or “I wish I’d done this or that” is totally detrimental to our mental/emotional health.
Instead, learn how to debrief. It sure has helped me with self-forgiveness.
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I’ve had to catch up on your last 5 post and it made me realize you’ve got such a consistent authorial voice which really draws me in. I really enjoy your blog – thanks for writing it!
Thank you! In many ways I write for myself.. as a reminder, journal and to reflect. So happy it benefits you.