What is Radical Responsibility?

This is one of the most liberating things you can practice to totally live your life to the fullest. It’s also one of the most difficult things to practice, especially during those ‘hard times’.

The process involves taking a [sometimes painful] look in the mirror. It’s about taking absolute responsibility for everything that happens in your life – yes, everything. That is taking radical responsibility, and that is the way to “fully take control” of your life.

But you’ve gotta be willing to go through the gauntlet. And actually, once we understand the process and change our perception about it, the ‘gauntlet’ doesn’t have to be so harsh.

As the law of attraction suggests, we ultimately create our reality. That means everything in our lives is a result of our own creation.

How can this be? Am I suggesting that we’re responsible for even the hardships and turmoils in our lives? Does everything really happen for a reason? Is that only a justification? Then how can we explain ‘accidents’?

This is a huge topic, so let’s take a more practical look into this.

Consciously or unconsciously, (usually unconsciously), we are “tuned in” to a certain vibration or frequency. All things that match that frequency are aligned with us, and vice-versa.

An example of this is the tv or radio. When you tune into a station you’re at the mercy of the programming on that station. If you don’t like a song on the radio, does it make sense to get angry at the song or the station? That’s what so many people symbolically do in their lives.

Our outer world reflects what is in our inner world. Yet how often do you find yourself blaming the outer world instead of taking responsibility and looking within, at the root cause?

It’s a basic concept that most people understand. And, you’re also familiar with the law of causality – cause and effect, right?

Basically we get what we give, and must understand the consequences to all of our actions. Okay, got it. So where’s the disconnect?

The challenge is in taking full and absolute responsibility for what goes on in our lives.

Let’s face it.  It’s much easier to blame circumstances or other people. After all, we need to protect our ego, right? …hmmm

By blaming others or by blaming circumstance, we actually disempower ourselves and fall victim to living our lives by default.

The greatest disconnect is that we often don’t consciously know where and what specific things went wrong – we don’t have the knowledge, experience, tools and resources. This is why it’s so important to have a support system – coach, mentor, mastermind, etc.

The toughest part about taking radical responsibility, is letting go of your own ego.

The ego clouds judgment and important lessons to be learned. Even if the lesson or solution is right in front of you. Whether it’s feedback, a learning experience, etc, if it’s not in the form that you want or delivered in the way you want or expect it, you’ll totally miss it! Then you go on to justify why it is the way it is. And I’m sure it’s a good reason. It has to be for your mind to accept it. But is that taking radical responsibility?

It’s sort of a paradox. The ego’s purpose is to protect you emotionally, to stay within the realm of the familiar, to be comfortable and predictable. However, the only way to grow is to get out of your comfort zone and expand through so called ‘mistakes’ and turn them into ‘learning experiences’.

It’s not your fault. We’re taught at an early age that mistakes = failure and punishment. One of the greatest shifts in paradigms is to replace this fear-based perception with the confidence and wisdom that comes from understanding the process of taking radical responsibility – the necessary formula for success.

The only way to fully take charge of your life is to take radical responsibility of your entire life. And that means not being afraid to own up to responsibility.

By denying responsibility we are denying our growth and in doing so we give up control of our lives. We then justify it using terms like “chance”, “accident” or even “luck”.

We also have to take responsibility for our emotional responses to circumstances. How we respond to situations is what gives it meaning. Our responses will either help us or hurt us. That’s a whole other topic we won’t get into here!

Toughen up by losing your ego! Seem like another paradox? Those with the biggest egos often seem like the ‘tough’ ones don’t they? I’ll tell you a secret – they’re not.

Debrief after any incident, (both positive and negative), that has any kind of emotional charge. Take back your life by taking radical responsibility. And find yourself a coach/mentor.

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