During most of my 20′s I lived in a perpetual downward spiral. Before I was 30, I had gone through more than some people do in their entire lives.
Imagine crashing your businesses into the ground and owing more in debts than you’ve ever made in your whole life. Picture the heartbreak of watching your vibrant health and athletic body deteriorate out of stress and depression.
It’s so sad when your friends stop calling and the only phone calls you get are from creditors. Do you know how humiliating it is to have to feed your family 99 cent burritos from Taco Bell everyday… for almost 2 months?!
Then having the love of your life totally rejected by your parents, and your relationship forbidden. Having to choose between your parents and your loved one is not an easy choice.
Since my parents didn’t approve of the woman I love, I decided I wasn’t living my life for them. So I eloped and married my Canadian sweetheart, who is Caucasian and 11 years older than me. (I come from a very traditional Korean family.) …It gets better. She’s divorced with 2 teenage kids, and her kids are half Japanese!
< 11 years older + divorced white woman + 2 teenage kids that are half Japanese >
Remember my older generation, traditional Korean parents? That’s 3 strikes – I’m out!
My relatives and even some of my friends thought I was insane. But hey, I lived a crazy life since I was a teenager, why stop now?!
Can you picture what kind of social life I had?
…Exactly! I RAN from social gatherings to save myself the pain of answering questions like, “So how are you? What are you up to?”
“Oh, my life is in shambles and I’m trying to find a good bridge to jump off of… How are you?!”
So here I was, barely 29 years old, an insta-family with teenagers, no steady income, and zero emotional support from my parents and friends. I was head high in debt, stressed and depressed. So what next?
Not in any attempt to escape my dire circumstances, my family and I were forced to move to Canada, away from my hometown to another country. Away from family and friends, where I don’t know anyone and can’t legally work. Yeah, that’s just perfect! Exactly how I planned my life – NOT!
Just when I was about to implode from severe emotional breakdown, I had an “Aha-Moment” that saved me from flying over the cuckoo’s nest.
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Hey wow! Thanks for sharing such a personal insight. I never would have suspected your circumstances’ effects. The aha moment – going to share it? There’s a reason for everything isn’t there? Has your family come around?
yeah – check out this post: http://stevesdragon.com/?p=622
Hey wow! Thanks for sharing such a personal insight. I never would have suspected your circumstances’ effects. The aha moment – going to share it? There’s a reason for everything isn’t there? Has your family come around?
Thanks Emily. Check out my post on the “aha moment” http://stevesdragon.com/?p=622
It took 4 years for my parents to come around. It happened when my sister got married. I guess that opened up their hearts!
yeah – check out this post: http://stevesdragon.com/?p=622